Threshold, thanks.
I've made the statement out loud to him in front of both the local alcohol nurse and his therapist. It came up after we discussed him going into rehab, he said he does want to do it because he knows that I need a break. Both who have immediately asked he if understood that it's not a break from him, but a break from the situation. He seems to understand that.
We also talked today about how his rehab stint is the opportunity for us to both concentrate on ourselves, that the us bit will come a bit further down the line. He's going to be in for at least 8 weeks, so a good time to start taking a look at ourselves.
And as for the drunken pawing, I feel bad about turning him down, he's such a little boy right now who wants to be comforted. He's spent most of the day in bed, and I know he's mainly done it to make sure he doesn't annoy me by getting too clingy. He also just said, I know the rules for tonight are the same as last night.