Similar to Pelican my ex did not have representation. We just hired one lawyer and I was represented.
I wish I had left the contact up to the attorney at every junction...even if it cost us more financially. The emotional stuff escalated when I made the contact and it gave him a chance to make some cheap shots against me (excusing me of dragging my feet, playing games etc). Of note the divorce only took us four months so my contact just created more confusion.