If I was in your shoes. I would go talk to the chaplin on base. They have alot of power to help you, way more than you think they do.
I would also believe, that your husband is suffering from ptsd's. The military has a very high case of it right now and is doing intense studies on it. He can get help for it and for his alcoholism. All he has to do is ask...It's free! You know that and so do I
I see 2 problems from the outside looking in...Ptsd's and alcoholism
And you cant fix either one of them...
Go talk to the chaplin Monday
I could give you the big spill on Alanon and trying to take care of you
but Im not going to..
Why? Because I personally deal with veterans that are in the same boat as your husband. It's the million dollar question I always ask: What was hatched first, the ptsd or the alcohol?...Only a question, they can answer...
I personally have family members, that have came home from war, and they have
changed and the drinking has increased. It's a national problem right now. Read and
educate yourself
His problem needs addressed with the military officials & medical officials
They can help him with ptsd's and the alcohol
War ptsd's....is not something to play with or try to guess.
It can be dangerous to his life and your's...
As a woman, a mom and a x-wife of a alcoholic.
I would say this...Do what is right for your children and you.
If it means you find a Alanon class to help you learn tools to take care of you, then do it.
If it means you kick him out of the house so the kids dont see it, then do it.
If it means you move home with your parents, then do it.
It means, you have to take care of YOU & YOUR CHILDREN!
It doesnt sound like he is mentally capable of taking care of himself, let alone
taking care of you and the kids...
And my x husband wasnt in the military, he is just an alcoholic that drinks everyday
and is not capable of taking care of himself. Thats how they roll...
Right now you are raising 2 beautiful children and 1 marine child....
Take care of the ones, that you gave birth too!
I tried for 16 years to get mine to stop drinking. I bitched, cried, screamed
and nothing worked. "I AM POWERLESS OVER ALCOHOL"...16 years later..I got it!
Mine is 50 years old and still drinking.....
We are divorced...I have peace & joy in my life. It's not been a bed of roses
but, I had to take care of me! It's not something I wanted, I wanted the
family, just like you do. But with an active alcoholic, it's impossible.
Remember, go talk to that chaplin....They offer substance/alcohol on base
and go talk to your family readiness officer. They can help you find a Alanon
class, Im sure they have them on base....
Your a Marine wife...That means, your tough, you can do it, YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!......do the right thing....Take care of you! Let the military, take care of him!