What would you do to keep your wife, if you were a medieval knight, raised in the code of chivalry? Your name, your honor and your life have been committed to protecting her. What if someone is taking her away?
Would you not arm yourself, shout up your squire to saddle your battle horse and ride out in hot pursuit? Would you not lay your life on the line and fight manfully to bring her back? What kind of a knight would lay back, pop another cold beaker of mead, and say "That looks too hard to me...maybe some day I'll go after her, today is for beer"?
Is it not worth your wife, your name, your honor, and your life to stop drinking? Maybe even dare to walk into an AA meeting (whether that is your permanent choice of recovery or something else takes its place, millions of people have been helped in AA) and perhaps be pleasantly surprised, as I was.
I wish you the best. Today could be that day you have been thinking about and training for, Sir Knight!