I can also relate , Ive kicked my son out plenty of times only to have him come knocking on my window in the middle of the night and so i let him back in,again and again. Hes home now and Im constantly wondering, accusing, guessing.....in my mind he hasnt done enough damage for me to totally shut the door on him, im just being honest here hes fairly young has time to change but down the road if that change does not come i just see myself one day not coming back home. I think we all need to do what we need to do why must we pay for the price of how someone else choses to live there life??, how long should we be the mat where they wipe their feet all over us ,after all the "welcome " sign is clearly written on that damn mat!!!!, fiding the courage to free ourselves of their lifestyle it seems takes lots of time but im hoping there is an end to the madness ...