Bertwash1, welcome.
A long time ago I had this gut feeling that my husband was an alcoholic but I kept justifying his behavior and I think I was too afraid to truly believe what my gut was telling me. Maybe that is what you're going through now, it's hard to face it and then to deal with it, but dealing with it now in this stage of the disease is much better than what is coming down the road. This disease is a progressive one.
My prayers are with you and the kids.