[QUOTE=onlythetruth;3239510]I'm not much of a label person, myself. IMHO, folks get way too hung up on whether someone is or is not "really an alcoholic". The question is not whether or not a label applies, it's whether the behavior of the person in question is acceptable.
I appreciate this so much and have gotten to that point. The label doesn't matter, it is the behavior that counts.
You have all been so supportive.
I love her 4 kids. I can see signs of codependence in some of the kids.
She told me that I should chill about the friday night issue because she did exactly what she said she would do. Which she did. But when she told she is doing so much better now because she is going out so much less than before we have been together. That is so encouraging to me!! Haha.
It is hard to make decisions on what we know or believe will happen than what will actually happen.
We will see what the this weekend brings.