Stubbs this too is my first time here. Crazy to me how you sound EXACTLY like my husband! He is in your shoes too. Its great hearing you speack honestly about your problem. As you, he drinks apx the same amount but tries hiding most\all of it from me while I'm at work... Have you also experienced that behavior? I would also like to know what your expectiaions from your wife are now? If i complement what a great day (no drinking) it is he gets made; If I dont say anything he feels like his efforts are all for nothing... Im confused, If you could give some insite that would be great.
BTW you should be SOOOO proud of yourself!