All this is helping me...just being able to talk about it is helping me. You sound like you are getting it down! I guess where I struggle with the boundaries are more related to the fact that my AH is a functioning? alcholic. He doesn't do anything outrageous where I can go THERE..SEE - that's it!! Mine is more the unhappiness, the distance, the verbal abuse, always feeling alone and lonely, worrying about the kids, the always AH-consuming search for the new career, being second to his drinking friends - the overall misery and aggravation. Sometimes I wish (though I know I really DONT want this ) - but, that he would cheat on me or hit me or something...so I can go - THATS IT! But, Gwenyth - you are giving me inspiration with your quick reception to all this new information
