Thank you outtolunch for your input, that does help me see things differently. The hard work will really begin once he's out and I do hope that he embraces all the help that's coming his way. When we were talking he said he was hoping for me to say "come home" and I told him that he's not going to get that from me. I have a long road ahead of me as far as not letting his choices and moods affect my own. This is just the very beginning of this life long process and there's clearly a lot I don't know and a lot I have to learn. What confuses me is now that he's made the choice to change the path he's been on, I should be supportive, right? But how do I do that and detach myself at the same time? I guess that's where I need to go to the meetings and start to get some knowledge that I need.