Originally Posted by
mattmathews 
We have a need to be loved. But that's our ego speaking "I want" to be loved. I want, I want, I want... That's not love. Love is giving with no expectation of anything in return...including being loved in return, including feeling secure, including being happy. Who want's that!? Not me. That's a lot of work.
Actually, I aspire to being more loving...but I'm nowhere close to being there yet.
Thank you for sharing this, Matt. OMG, it is exactly what I need to hear with regard to what I had been hoping would be a serious relationship (1st after XAH). I am apparently still very much stuck in the looking for security and feeling loved by others rather than creating those feelings myself.