Welcome back, and thank you for sharing your journey with us, even though it took some nasty turns.
I think we expect everyone who is working a recovery program from whatever side, to be spiritual, kind, calm and enlightened and just pleasant to be around. We think that if we take away to drugs/raging codependency, they will become nice people. Sadly, some are still the obnoxious jerks they were before. Some hide it well under the mask of "recovery".
What helped me was to stay focused on my own values and stay true to them. It was very freeing to be able to stand for what I believe...even when I stand alone. When I do that and try to be the best person I can be, what others think matter less and less.
I am so glad you came back to use to share, and I hope you will continue sharing. You have been through several transitions and enlightenment and it is interesting to see recovery from the eyes of those who have been through this.
Welcome back hugs