So sorry for you troubles. I'm in the same spot. My alcoholic nephew (hubby's side of the family) tackled my 22yo daughter on November 3rd while totally wasted. Broke her collar bone, surgery with titanium plate and 4 screws and another surgery in 6 months. She hasn't been able to work in 2 months and has had ALOT of pain... and that side of the family have not spoken to us since. Not even to check on my daughter. My daughter the victim and they are MIA! It hurts, but I've learned that God some times removes people from your life for your protections - think before running after them.
All I can say it I'm still really working on letting it all go. Lots of Praying going on here!!!
And I'll pray for peace for you.