Hello Susie, and welcome to SR. My name is Laura and I am a recovering alkie/pothead with a precious 6+ months of sobriety. We are all glad you are here. You have made a big step by coming here and admitting to us that you have a problem and you need help. So sorry about the DWI. I have had two, and they are a big pain in the a$$!!!! However, as was said before, if a DWI is what it takes for you to get sober, then it is a blessing in disguise! My second DWI kept me sober for about 2 weeks, but I wasn't going to AA, wasn't changing my behavior and way of thinking, and I could not stay away from the drink.
Best of luck to you with your husband. Come back here and let us know how it went. You CAN do this.
Hugs--