i have been in this mans footsteps and in hindsight it was a blessing in disguise when everyone one turned there backs on me. only then will he be alone and feel real pain which i think helped me out. nc do yourself and your family a favour an live in peace not sorrow. foxy ps he is the only person who can tread the path to soberity only when he has no more family suport will he no he is alone. i think that should be enough to put anyone straight. all the best