Originally Posted by
Newimage 
Today she talked about coming here after she gets out and said she was dying to take a hot shower and get her own clothes on and use some decent hair products.
It was all about the blasted hair products, of all things, for my daughter, too.
I don't know how to deal with this initial visit!
How about seriously considering that
there will be no initial visit. Once she is in the door, it's going to be a million times tougher to get her out without physical force. Don't go there.
"No" is a complete sentence. " No because..." opens the door to negotiation and manipulation. Her addiction compels her to protect and sustain it at all costs. You cannot compete with this. Logic does not work.
Ask yourself why her stuff is more important than your stuff and money. Give it to Goodwill or toss it out on garbage collection day. You are not a storage locker. You did not cause this. You cannot control this. You cannot cure this.
Her choices and behaviors created this mess. Give her the gift of dignity to experience the consequences of her choices and behaviors.
Tough love means being tough with ourselves and not capituating to the whims of children.