Originally Posted by
Heartbroken0608 
You can't change your brother and you also cannot change how your family members interact with him.
I can't believe this yet. I know I cannot
control my brother or family members. But I'm introducing them to these forums. If they dig around here some, they might see that there are stronger ways to deal with this situation - ways that might precipitate a more desirable outcome instead of dragging out more of the same for years.
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There is a saying "In nature there is no punishment, only consequences." That applies to us as well as the addict.
Maybe they'll come to see that I just want my brother back. He was a great guy. He's a disaster now. I say "hide your jewelry", I'm the ass. I say "don't send money", I'm the ass. I say "he's a liar", I'm the ass. I back off and don't say anything, I'm the ass.
Those are my consequences. But it feels a lot like punishment.
I read your replies over and over. Thanks again