Originally Posted by
Newimage 
I told her I would spend $ on a residential rehab in another state and would rather do that than pay it out on bail and recovering my belongings from pawn shops. She agitatedly and angrily told me that she would not leave the only friends she has...
Maybe her "friends" will get her residential rehab here then.
Originally Posted by
Newimage ... she is not ready to do that, and I couldn't make her. (She is 22). She said she wants to get counseling and psychiatric help but only here.
Well, there's nothing stopping her from getting counseling and psychiatric help here--you just aren't going to pay for it.
As for the dilemma of her getting out and disappearing, you have my deepest empathy. I'm so sorry, it's so frightening and painful not to know if your child is okay, especially when you know they are self destructing. Many hugs and prayers for your daughter and especially for you.