maybe i am missing something here
Yes you are lonelystar. You are depriving him his obligation to do this for himself. He can find a sober living house with his counselor's help. He can then struggle to find a job like EVERYBODY ELSE. He is in this situation because of his ACTIONS. Please, please allow him to FEEL THE CONSEQUENCES of those ACTIONS to the fullest.
Allow him to take on his OWN RESPONSIBILITY.
That is a big PART of RECOVERY.
Believe me, for I have done it, the A in honest recovery can and will find a place to live (Sober Living Environment) and a job. You are free to tell him at any time that you have changed your mind and he will need to look for a SLE with the help of his counselor.
Read my first post on this thread. I had no help. I didn't even call them until I was over 6 months sober to let them know I was sober, and it took almost 3 years to be invited back into the family on a 'limited' basis, while they formed their own opinions on whether I was 'sober' and 'recovering.'
Love and hugs,