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I'm sorry if this is not the right forum for this or if this question has been asked, but I really don't know what to do.

My husband and I just got married a few months ago and relapsed after two sober years last night and the other night. We have been together for 11 years where his family and I saw him fall hard a few times. I broke up with him for a year and it was then that he put in all his effort to become sober. Over 2 years ago, he hit his rock bottom after being hospitalized and tried to kill himself with his withdrawal medication and pain relievers. He attended rehab, got serious about sobering up and did so well for 2 straight years until the other night. He seemed like a brand new person, our relationship was better than ever so we decided it was the right time to finally get married, he just landed the job of his dreams this month and he was solid and okay with being around alcohol without finding it difficult. He even became a mentor to family friends that were dealing with alcoholism and just seemed to be moving forward and was so open about not drinking.

Well, he had some beers the other night and ignored all of my calls. He called the next morning and said he slipped, knew he had to be more aggressive, attend meetings again and knew he had so much going on that he couldn't let that happen again. Last night he drank again with his new bosses claiming he had to do it to be successful. I haven't heard from him since, he hasn't come home and I have no idea where he is. He tends to be defensive and embarassed, which results to him ignoring me. I didn't go to work because in the past, he'd be so depressed with himself for drinking that he'd come home the next morning and do it again when he's alone and I was afraid of that. I don't know if I should wait around for him, which is why I'm here.

My old self would always be the one to try and get a hold of him while he was mean and defensive towards me and I would just take it because all I wanted was for him to be okay. This time around, I want to do whatever is the best approach. Can someone please help me and give me advice on how I should respond when I finally do see him? What is the best thing I can do on my end? I worry so much that he will drink himself to death if he's alone and depressed since he's done similar things before, but I don't think waiting around at home and missing work is the best thing to do here.

thank you so much.