Hope2B: You are treading on new and vulnerable waters. My experience as a parent who decided not to have my AS live with me is that it was absolutely the right thing to do for me and for my AS. But things are not smooth-sailing after that. My son put up resistance, mainly with guilt. I really had to come here a lot, go to meetings a lot, pray a lot, read a lot. I found the book "The Lost Years" to be very helpful. (If you google it, there are two books with that name - the one I mean is the one where the recovering AD and mother co-author the book). And 5 years later I still have to keep my 12-step connection because holidays are hard, his birthdays are hard, his crises are hard. Being the mom of an addict is not for weenies.
Good for you, mom, and keep coming back!