hi Panda,
you may find your process of detaching from this person in your life difficult...or maybe you will just cut and be done. it is up to you and how you move forward...chances are it is going to be difficult for you. if you find it to be difficult to let go and move on it is because you are not dealing with a "normal" relationship or breakup...whatever normal is, it's always hard, but it is entirely confusing when addiction is in the cards
I should correct that and say it is absolutely insanely crazy making confusing IF IF IF you try to figure it out! active addiction includes manipulative twisting, talking in circles, lying, etc etc. I can pretty much guarantee you that you will not discover anything that makes sense, except for excuses.
if it is difficult for you (vs. simply and solidly detaching with love...) you will really and truly benefit by giving yourself the support you will find here but also at face to face meetings. so important to have support. you will need to be reminded that you are dealing with the insanity of addiction.
simple
the total insanity of addiction
that insanity trumps everything...everything
free yourself in whatever way works for you
detach from the insanity in the million ways you will find it can connect to you
just keep detaching
get help figuring out how.