The Holidays - Its Hard to Stay Detached
How are you doing it? Detaching with love during the holidays.
My AH wants me to spend christmas with him... offered to buy airplane tickets to for us to go away to visit his brother... offered to take me away for the weekend. I said no.. I already have plans to see my family. I don't want to see his brother who is an alcoholic and who will want to do drugs with him.
He says he's either going to spend it with me or alone and he's not trying to guilt trip me.
We haven't seen each other in six weeks. I feel bad for him but he needs to face the consequences of his addiction and I don't want to spend Christmas with him while he's actively using or crashing. We'll fight and I really can't see myself having sex with him right now. I may have dinner with him after christmas but only if I feel like it and he acts decently. This is horrible. Should have been our first christmas together as a married couple. Instead he's probably high now, we don't live together and I'm wondering how long this can go on in limbo like it has.... one day at a time.