i have really enjoyed reading through these posts - it seemed at first there were two sides but as i read through i saw a continual stream of recovery - like a brook flowing - then being split by an obstruction but coming back together on the other side even stronger than before - we are all individuals and our journey has its own milestones but the similarities are undeniable and the things that eventually make a difference to our addicted loved one or to ourselves are the same basic things - when we know better we do better - thank you for everyone's heartfelt candor -