((Wallflower))
I know that it is hard and we are in a lot of pain seeing our loved ones sucked down by alcoholism and addiction. But as others have said, an affair is only going to cause more harm than good. I have done things that I thought would make me feel better in the past, and they made me feel worse about myself. Give Al-Anon and recovery some time. Lean on the people here and at the meetings. You can get through this and be stronger, more confident, and more serene if you can do that. Get some phone numbers and use them. Vent here. But don't do something that you will regret out of desperation. If you stick with recovery, there is healing and hope. If we cave in to our desperation, we will never find a healthier way to deal with things. Remember that this too shall pass. You won't be in this turmoil forever. You don't have to bare it alone. Hugs, Magic