hi there willy,
I myself am dealing with a addicted son, he denies everything from his addiction to the trauma that he causes to his family, sometimes I just sit and wonder does he not see what he is doing???, that sitting at home asking me for money pretending he needs it to go out with his gf when i know he wants to go buy to use, he actually blames me and everyone around him for the fact that he cant get and keep a job, when i try to point these things out to him , he gets angry , defensive, total denial and will not accept any responsibility . How do I deal with it??, I feel this way, I need to get it out , tell him what his actions have done and how they make me feel , it seems you cant make somebody see but at least you can let it out its a big relief for me , maybe one day he will choose to see but thats his choice.