Two people involved in a relationship that want a future together have to be both emotionally and physically available to pursue that goal. If you are still married, you aren't available.....and if he is married...he isn't available to you....so what would be the point then of the affair?? Does that make sense to you?
Hi Wallflower,
The above from Pony is so very true.
Wallflower, ones self-esteem, self-respect, integrity and personal values are not dependent upon on what the other person does or doesn't do, it is completely dependent on what we do or do not do.
I would suggest taking the focus off your husband, and put it on you, and perhaps ask yourself one very important question......How is lowering your own personal values going to be of help to you, or your family?
If you have made the decision that this marriage isn't going to work out, then I would suggest taking actions that match your words. Actions speak a whole lot louder than mere words.
God Bless,
Patsy