I've had to go thru this a few times myself and some things that helped me were 1) Going to Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis, 2) Learning about and practicing Detachment, Boundaries, Acceptance and other "12-Step" related concepts, and 3) Reading books on Codependence and Recovery. I've found that thinking about this experience as "all just practice" also helped me. I've had to learn how to not beat myself up when I just do the same thing I did before (like getting sucked back into a relationship with him again when I KNEW what would happen) but instead try to come away from it each time with just one more realization about myself, no matter how small. Try to remember, too, that each time, it gets a little easier, it hurts a little less, and you get a little stronger, until you are ready to break free!