50% of children of alcoholics/addicts either become "A's" themselves or marry/have relationships with "A's"... unfortunatly the gene is passed on from generation to generation.
That is bad enough, without being exposed to an alcoholic day in and day out. This is a toxic enviorment.
I am the child of alcoholics, I lived the nightmare, I prayed for a responsible parent to emerge, none did.
All I can say is...make your child your priorty, you are your sons voice ,his future, your abf is an irresponsible alcoholic, who your son should not be left alone with.
Your abf is an adult, his recovery is up to him, your sons future is yours to guide, do something positive for him. If you do not, you are just as iresponsible as your abf.
Don't mean to sound harsh...however to me...it must be minor children first.