At this point I am at a loss--not sure what kind of relationship to have with her. I am so sad just this week another old friend died at 49 and I hate to think that she will die also. I have been reading here for a while so I have finally realized that I can't help her but it just makes me so sad. She was such a life force for me and the last 12 years have really changed her. It has progressed to a level that I worry that it is more than alcoholism and there are mental issues and I have done ALL of the wrong things thinking that I was helping her but now realize that I have played right into the whole thing.