when i came to believe the solution was in my higher power and not within me it helped.
When I stopped using benchmark days "if I can just get to this date....." that eased my mind...the committee..Its not a day at a time otherwise,
When I thought people had "got it" I didnt realise there really wasnt really any such thing, we were all only doing this a day at a time no matter how long someone had under their belt.
Not sure if any of this helps. Take care xxx