Sandy, that is exactly what I am doing. Im detaching. I make the choice to not let my past control today. Matter of fact I'm leaving for Virginia tomorrow to be with my family (other than my father). You see, 14 yrs. ago I helped my father move back to Va. He did everything he could to make me stay but I came back to Texas. I'm the only one here. While running away from him I ran away from my grand parents, aunts, uncles, etc. I quit talking to them, writing them, etc. I have only one grand parent left...the one with whom I spent more time than anyone...my mom's mom. I haven't seen or spoken with her or anyone on my mom's side of the family in over 9 years. I haven't seen (barley spoken to) my brothers or my sister in 9 years. Same with my mother. So for the next 4 days I am going back to reclaim what has been waiting for me....my family. I cannot wait to feel the love that all those people have to give. I have been getting so many e-mails from them telling me how excited they are to see me. In the past I thought "what would change if I go back"....now I think "I'm getting the one things I've missed more than anything...my family". There will be a lot of wounds healed over the next few days. A lot of guilt and shame left in Va. before I come back to Texas.