Decades...I feel for you.
My AH of 11 years left last weekend after I had reached the end of my rope. We are not bankrupt...but owe a shed load of money in unpaid bills etc.
It's been the toughest decision I have ever had to make, but this time I did it with my head and not my heart. The love i had has been well and truly sucked out of me, so I guess I am not the "walkover" i used to be...giving in to the emotional blackmail.
WE DO DESERVE BETTER...and now we have the chance.
I have felt the guilt too...but I believe I have done the right thing for me and my boys.
Take good care
M.