Hi Athome
Is she attending meetings?.If she's is on a slippery slope she won't want to go.I'm sure everyone wants the best for her and there are alot of emotions flying around.Backing off maybe the best advice which doesn't mean you don't care or love her.But just giving her the space to make her own mistakes without anyone to blame or take blame.The addiction is way smarter and cleaver and usually the people hurt are not the ones using,However they are the ones blaming each other for the addicts actions.It takes along time to understand the dynamics.Have you been attending Alanon meetings?.That's a great place for support and understanding.