I think there were several distinct stages to quitting drinking for me. The time that worked for the last year and a couple of months anyway was when I decided I didn't ever want to drink or smoke again. That I was willing to do what ever it took to get there, and I would marshal a support group here and at SR that covered me face to face, with my friends and family my docs and my kids and grandkids. A safe in hospital detox and some rehab and even though my wife still drinks and smokes in moderation that my problem is not hers and her drinking has nothing to do with me or my sobriety.