in early recovery...in those first meetings, even today at the potluck gratitude meeting, I often am in tears. I am in the middle of a breakup, what else would I expect. when you step through the doors of al anon you are quietly, gently, lovingly embraced in a world wide fellowship of people who can empathize with where you are at. crying is allowed, and through the tears you will see the smiles, wisdom and serenity of a lot of intelligent loving people...just like you.