harleyq,
It will take some time to earn back trust. I know it is difficult, but from my experience, it is best to just let those things go for now and focus on getting and staying sober. It may seem like a really bad thing that someone blames you for problems, but there is a flip-side to that. If you own up to things, once you do get yourself better and things improve, you will also be given credit for fixing them. Interestingly, the worse things are now, the bigger the improvement when it finally comes, and the more people will come to appreciate your efforts.