Glad to hear you're feeling better Denise.
For myself I did not like anyone confronting me about my drinking or giving me ultimatums and yes if I were forced to stop I would have deeply resented it.
Nobody likes to have their choice taken away especially alcoholics with overinflated egos.
Stopping is a deeply personal decision and nobody can force me to make that choice.
Standing up to hubs and letting him know exactly how you feel is a good move on your part but attending alanon meetings may be able to help you with learning how to detatch from his behaviour.
Take care of you.