My call to the treatment centre blew a big whistle on what was going on. His counsellors, etc. all told him to get better he needed to pull his head out of his a$$ and quick. He still doesn't know I called them. He called me to apologize and we made plans for the whole weekend as a family minus one evening for a meeting...without the girl. We have agreed that we will not make any life altering decisions until at least 3 months post treatment (6 months sober). So, we'll see what all happens in the meantime.
Unfortunately I wasn't able to get to Al-Anon due to unforeseen circumstances at work. I did see my counsellor however. I have decided that I need the following 4 things from my partner for this marriage to work:
I need him to be sober.
I need him to be faithful to me only - emotional and physical.
I need him to be trustworthy - no lies & the whole truth.
I need to be cherished.
If we work hard and I can't get those things, or if he's not willing to put the hard work in to get there, then I will let go so I don't get dragged
Thanks so much to everyone for helping to keep me sane when I was starting to lose hope
