Originally Posted by
berrygirl 
When they go to AA, he leaves 2 hours before so he can give everyone rides and spends hours with everyone after. He says that everyone there knows what he's going through...especially one girl who I've come to realize he has romantic feelings for.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. In my opinion and my experience, this is one of the most serious dangers of promoting the idea that "only an alcoholic can understand an alcoholic" and "you need to put your recovery first, even ahead of your marriage and family". It's only a tiny leap from that, to "gee, I'd better get to the AA meeting two hours early rather than spend time with my kids....and wow, this girl I met in AA understands me so much better than my normie wife...."
I cannot count the number of families I have seen broken up due to these ideas. I don't doubt that the intent behind them is good, but in practice, the result can be just tragic.