What I found at Al-anon was a group of people who had lived MY life... so when I told them my troubles and woes - they nodded and smiled - because they understood!! Then something wonderful happened - instead of dwelling on my problems - they helped me focus towards solutions! They let me vent when I needed to, and then patiently redirected me back to a path towards happiness and serenity!!
Before Al-anon I vacillated between two extremes - constantly focusing on the negative and pretending the negative didn't exist. Neither worked well for ME. In Al-anon, I learned to see the negative, accept it, and make decisions that moved me and my life away from the negative.
It really is a truly amazing program!
Thanks for letting me share,
Shannon