Welcome,
I really cannot tell you what to do, all I can do is share.
My mother is the main alcoholic in my life, I have been through h@ll and back trying to
deal with her. On two occasions I went total no contact with her, once for 4 years another for 10 years. I had to, for me, I could no longer tolerate the abuse and turmoil.
We have been on speaking terms for the last 6 years or so, she knows what my bouderies are and if she crosses them I will follow through, I say what I mean and mean
what I say.
Only you know what is best for you and your family, they need to be your priorty. Whether you visit your mother and the rest of the bunch, keep in mind that they will
continue to do what they want to do, regardless of your decisions.
Read all the stickies in the Family & Forums, it will help...and keep posting.