You said, She drinks because she has a fear of dying??? OMG...
She will die, if she continues to drink...
In Alanon, we call that QUACK!..Kind of like ********!
They come up with any reason to drink. It is amazing!
Lots of us lose our entire families, home, business, years of marriage
to a active alcoholism. So you are not alone. Some alcoholics
will tell you straight to your face, they are selfish people. They would
rather drink, than save a family, home, business, years of marriage.
I easily write this, because that's what mine told me......
So you must step aside, let GO and let GOD and SAVE YOURSELF!!