Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
why don't you want to believe it? what forms your resistance to the idea that he IS indeed an addict?
The blinders of denial are hard to rip off - for me it felt like pulling old duct tape off my face. But once I did, acceptance was such a sweet relief from the turmoil and stress of maintaining my own denial.
Very good question, anvil. Jack, pardon me if its already been said here, but Al-Anon is a wonderful resource for reaching acceptance. I am not sure I could have done it on my own. Take good care!