Originally Posted by
wellnowwhat 
Fear and cheap.
Day to day living is not bad. He's a quiet alcoholic, no drama, just totters off to bed. I do my thing, have my activities, have detached from his drinking.
Not sure relative comfort will be exchanged for a better situation. I know what I have now, I don't know how much/if it can be better.
Hence my name: Well, now what?
And procrastination is a lifelong challenge. I identify with Scarlett O'Hara "I'll think about it tomorrow!"
I think this is some of it for me too. Most of the time he is a "quiet drunk" in fact no one can really tell he is drunk. I don't have to lie to cover up anything. No one suspects anything. He just drinks non-stop. all day, everyday. And then sometimes he will just up and catch me off guard ya know and BAM there we are in a fight and I have no idea what the hell happened. He doesn't get violent, but does repeat those patterns of manipulation etc .... but its what I know