...so it doesn't matter what he does. Please go to at least six meetings, some different, before deciding if it is for you. As for him, it doesn't matter. AA is for people to learn about how not to drink, Alanon is for people who love alcoholics, weather the alcoholic is drinking or not.
That's you.
Please keep an open mind and try it. Alanon, literally, saved my life.
Cyranoak
Originally Posted by
berrygirl 
Thanks for the encouragement! I was thinking of going to Alanon but wondered what the point was if he's not going to be around anyway. Maybe I'll give it a whirl. I am definitely ready and willing to make changes myself. I have lost a lot of who I am because I've been so busy raising my children and always picking up the pieces.
I decided to call the treatment centre today to make sure they are aware of what's going on. I agree that we should not be making any hasty decisions, especially while he is still in treatment. The care team there including the doctors, therapists, etc. are going to work with him on these issues.
I really do appreciate the encouragement. I'm praying that this will all work out. My kids and I have already been through so much.