Thread: Why do we stay?
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Old 11-14-2011, 06:16 AM
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nodaybut2day
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For me...it was a whole host of messed up, entangled reasons:
  • Fear of "being the bad buy" (i.e. the one who broke the other person's heart and walked away "in his time of need")
  • Fear of the unknown and of breaking known patterns
  • Fatigue/discouragement
  • Pride (not wanting to face my family and friends who all told me he was bad news)
  • The desire to fix/save/change "for his own good" (but really, for MY own good)
  • The love and responsibility I felt for his son, whom I raised like my own
  • Lack of money

In the end, I found I was just making excuses. I COULD leave. I just needed that extra kick in the @ss HP had to give me.
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