Originally Posted by
tryintosmile 
Yes - when it is good it is very very good - and when it is bad it is horrid. I honestly don't think we'd stay if it was horrible all of the time (unless we were physically trapped and had no resources). There are some really good things and most of the time I spend weighing out the bad with the good, and end up somewhere in the middle - on the fence - and indecisive.
I agree I think that it has always been me sitting on the fence and being indecisive that has caused me to stay because while I am sitting on that fence, things "get better" so to speak. So while things are better, I slide down that fence and stay until the next problem occurs. For some reason (I guess because things had been so good and peaceful for soooooo long) I was so off the fence that I married him. I thought if he quit drinking it would be better until I read over some post about the "dry drunk" and I could see that in him. so here I am.