Some very interesting opinions here, but for me the nuts and bolts of it comes down to this.
If the wreck of a person that I was the day after I quit drinking was desirable to a person that I was interested in having relationship with I would have to ask myself
is this person going to have anything in common with the person that I hope to become on my path to recovery?
If my sponsor is worth his chips he will be well aware of the fact that I am or I am not ready for a relationship at whatever stage in my recovery.
When I hear or disagree with some advice that I am given that would usually make good sense to someone else, I have to look at it as a fear that I have to surrender my will.
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.This is not in the book