Hi Bonnie, and if nothing else know this. By any standard your husband is an alcoholic. Period. What to do about it, if you're going to live with it, how you are going to live with it, those are the questions.
Being here is a good start, and the other posters have shared some great information. Alanon is a great place for you to learn more about how to better answer the questions for yourself.
Take care, be patient with yourself, and keep an open mind about what you read here and also Alanon meetings. But, as I said before, your husband is an alcohlic. Not might be, but is.
Sorry.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Cyranoak